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  Are you living out some of your dreams yet?

  by LyinEyes in

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  i have been up watching saturday night fever, made in the year 1977. funny thing i noticed , the club that the tony(john travolta) dances at is called 2001 odessey.

  i thought god , i was 10 or 11 when that movie came out.

  i wanted to see it so bad, but good jw's would never see such a movie, the disco era right.

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  Granny Linda

  I'm not so sure that I've lived out any of my dreams, but I sure as heck have done things I'd never dreamed of. And I mean that in a postive way.

  I was fortunate in that just prior to my df at age 19, I had already begun a career that would progress with time. The down-slide was getting involved in daily drunkedness...and not having dealt with my tramatic JW youth. Somehow those two, for me, went hand in hand.

  Since my introduction into recovery 15 years ago, I've learned a lot more about visualization; creating what we desire. It all takes time and effort. I've accepted that for myself, each day is living my dream to some extent. I'm no longer plagued with nightmares about ARmaggdon nor do I worry myself about what that side of the family might think about me. That is living my dream to some degree. Not every dream takes on a physical acting out, such as career - although I'm a firm believer in going for the gusto...absolutely and positively, seek your heart's desire.

  Of the many things I thought would interest me, it's funny really, each day brings a new encounter of some sort that allows me to practice the principles by which I desire to be guided by. Now I certainly do fall short on occassion, but that's ok. So I guess my dream today is living a simple, uncomplicated life. Which I do.

  On the other hand, as for living out "a dream", we are planning to relocate in another state come spring. With us will be my son and his family. It's what each has expressed a desire for. Meantime daughter-in-law is enrolled in night classes, has 3 children under the age of 7, and works two days a week. So this grandma is getting closer to her "dream" of just being the grandma who helps with the grandchildren, gardens, does crafts, and will always continue doing community service work. And helping to enstill the knowledge that what we envision can become reality.

  Granny, of the "dreams do come true" class......thanks for a great topic, DeDe.
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  You are never really alone in life

  by kenpodragon in

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  recently as i posted on this site, a very dear friend of mine lost her child in a most terrible manner.

  it has been five days now, and they have laid the child to rest, but the love that had poured out to these two parents has been astounding.

  the thing is, the love that is the most surprising is the love that has come from the online friends.

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  Granny Linda

  Howdy, Dragon.

  I still think of Dana and her family so often. Just one of those tragic reminders that what we hold so near and dear can vanish in an instant.

  I was telling my husband you can be sure it was her on-line friends for one, that poured out their hearts to that family...sure as hell can't count on JW's for comfort. I'm not at all surprised hearing of the support they received. I purposably went back to Tim's site just to read more because it was Dana...who always struck me as the sincere, loving person she wrote as.

  Granny, who hasn't forgotten your son is soon to make an appearance. Damn, you'd think Logan was gonna be my grandson as excited as I am.
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  HONESTLY, Do You Consider Yourself A Nice Person?

  by minimus in

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  do you really feel that you are a nice person or an unlikeable one?

  when you were in a congregation, did you tend to get along with people?

  were you contentious?

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  Honestly? Most of the time. I also know I'm capable of great anger when I feel pushed by some idiot that just doesn't understand what "get the f--k out of my face" means. Otherwise I'm also learning how easy it is for just walking away from certain situations because it's not important today for having the last word...especially with know-it-all buttheads.

  granny
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  What's Your WORST Vice???

  by minimus in

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  now that you no longer have any real restrictions, have you allowed yourself to do something "naughty"?

  what's your worst vice?

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  I don't really have "vices." Now there are things about my personality some may find offensive, but I don't consider them as such. I know old age setting in has made a difference because not that long ago I bragged about...well, I won't say it here.

  What some might consider VICE, other's might consider virtue...

  granny
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  Since it's Halloween....

  by Bendrr in

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  thought i'd share a picture with y'all.

  i took it at a historic cemetary near where i live.

  i didn't even think much of it until a friend of mine saw it and freaked out.

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  Yeah, Mulan. I wanna see it too.

  granny
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  I am new

  by madison149 in

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  i've been reading this site for about 2 weeks.

  the information and support here are great!

  i'm trying to fade away from the jw's without having to da myself (because of my many jw family members).

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  Granny Linda

  Hi, Madison. Welcome.

  I'm sorry you didn't get to go trick or treating with your son this year. I'm hoping by this time next year you will be reporting to us all what you'll be wearing.

  These are wonderful forums, something unheard of 30 some years ago when I was df. I really have no lingering JW issues, but have learned so much since signing on over a year ago for the very first time. I recently switched to Simon's board just for a change of pace. I was stunned reading about the United Nation's episode - such hypocrites! and of course we now are facing this sickening pedophile issue. Anyhow, I'm always happy when a newcomer joins in.

  Granny Linda
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  New here - thanks all

  by acsot in

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  ive been reading these posts and some on other websites for awhile now, trying to figure things out for myself.

  im still a jw, a non-believing one if you will.

  i more or less grew up as a jw, my father was an alcoholic and my mother became a jw when i was a kid.

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  Granny Linda

  Welcome. Enjoyed reading your post.

  My father (non-Jw) was an alcoholic, and my mom the JW convert. I was df at age 19. I'm now 5l.

  At age 37 I found myself sitting in A.A. because I now had a problem bigger then ever having been JW. The irony of it all was through my sobering up the religious abuse issue(s) came to surface...and big time, too. Instead of carrying around their shame and fears; and yes, the self esteem issue always seems like a biggy for us, I was able to dump their religious crap into the toilet. That's when I really started 'recovering.' Soberity was just the beginning.

  I pretty much look at myself as recovered these days. I found something that works in every aspect of my life...some positive principles based upon self responsiblity. Even at that I stopped going to A.A. after five years a die-hard promoter because with sanity came the ability to reconise too much of the same mindset that was all to familiar with the JW's. And I guess in all fairness it comes down to personalities because not all acted or spoke "judgement" just as I read not all JW's are hard hearted.

  Today I'm so detached from my JW family that it feels good! My mom is still alive and we speak maybe once every five years. And that's if I should call her...which I chose to no longer do. We all made our decision. Whilst I detest Jw's overall, I no longer waste precious time and energy worrying about what they think of me. I already know they do not, nor do they care to really know who I am.

  What's more important is that I know who I am, and be true to thine self. If you have not heard of John Bradshaw or Father Leo Booth, they were both very instrumental in my early recovering years because Bradshaw addresses the family dysfunction from various angles...and it spoke volumns to me. Leo Booth helped me with the spiritual angle and that wasn't easy for this anti-christian gal.

  I have great respect for both men. Recently I surfed for Leo Booth and found his webpage much more commerialized...my opinion only. And I guess it can happen as one becomes more popular. At any rate, recovery is the most precious gift we can bestow upon ourself. So glad you decided to join us. We all have stories, we all have something of value to offer to the newcomer...just as the newcomer offers so much to us.

  Thanks for being here.

  Granny Linda
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  My heart is very sad

  by kenpodragon in

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  i know some of the people that come to this board, used to go to the beyondjw.com boards.

  if you have then you might have known dana, aka wingedgoddess01.

  if you did, i am sad to report that yesterday her 14 month daughter died.

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  Granny Linda

  Kenpo, I could not finish reading all the posts...I just had to write. This is truly a sad, sad thing.

  I'm just sickened about this.

  granny linda
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  Can we still be friends, if I disagree with you?

  by Mulan in

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  let's talk about this.. i have lots of friends on this board.

  so..........can we still be friends, if i disagree with you?

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  Granny Linda

  Joann...that was toooooo funny! Damn, you women are so witty. Not to be confused with nitwit.

  Kenpo, your a person after my own heart. I hate Yes people! GRRRRR. That is unless hubby is saying Yes to going and picking up the grandchildren - or letting me have my way...again.

  But seriously, Yes people are so boring, and of course so predictable. You know darn good and well they will swing which ever way seems the more popular at the moment. Hey, when I first met my sweet, kind husband; he had just spent 22 years in the military. I told him right up front that I do not like Yes men, period. Well, I warned him years ago, so he's on his own if he caves into my whimes and desires. Life is grand, eh.

  granny
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  They're baaaack!

  by joannadandy in

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  care bears!!

  the return of care bears!!

  (i have also heard strawberry shortcake is making a comeback--tho i have seen no visible proof for myself.

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  Granny Linda

  Ya'll are funny. Thanks.

  I take it He-Man is one of our super hero's? If so guess I'll have to check it out because grandson is gonna be our next national hero...that is when he gets older and doesn't whine about everything that hurts a little bit. Meanwhile he is definetly a Batman sorta kid.

  Grand-daugher on the other hand is Miss. Barbie all the way!!!!! I just love being grandma. There is nothing to compare...absolutely nothing.

  Granny, and proud of it.